The pain you experience in life results from the death-grip you have on a life you think you should have had. Pain comes from holding on to old ideas, feelings and intentions that have long since passed. Pain comes from holding on to ideas and emotions that no longer serve you, ideals that you still cling to despite the deep inner intuitive nudge you experience that is telling you to believe in something different, something greater.
Pain comes from your resistance to evolution, your mental and emotional preoccupation with the idea that you are what you were, the idea that you should be something more, and the impossibility you feel in attaining something better - A lingering feeling of perpetual defeat.
“Time is swift, it races by; Opportunities are born and die... Still you wait and will not try - A bird with wings who dares not rise and fly.”
- A. A. Milne
You desperately clutch to the things you think you are or the things you think you should have had, been, done or achieved. You hold on because it's a part of your identity, part of what you feel you should have been.
“Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.” - Henry David Thoreau
The pain comes from separating yourself from what you were, what you could have been, what you currently are and what you aspire to be. You experience the death of your old self and your potential self simultaneously by submitting to/settling for the person who (in your opinion) has tragically fallen short.
“Hell is seperation from love.” - Thomas Pendelton
Pain comes from that feeling of dread & failure - An inherent feeling of shame. You might feel that you have let people down, that you haven't lived up to your own potential. The ultimate question is... Do you feel pain because you haven't lived up to your own desires, or do you feel pain because you haven't lived up to the expectations of others. Either way, you have to learn to forgive yourself and move on. Don't allow your future to be spoiled because you are ashamed of your past.
Ultimately - Expectation takes the front seat.
Expectations are rarely of your own making. Expectation is a form of social osmosis, a strong subconscious feeling to please those around you. It's the compelling feeling of having to live up to an idea which others have created for you, the idea that you should sacrifice your greatest wants and desires for something secure & stable, something responsible & respectable.
Expectation is the perpetual death of the person you long to be.
“I do my thing and you do yours. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, then it is beautiful. If not, it can't be helped.” - Frederick Perls
Stop torturing yourself with expectation and start living for yourself, start developing your own mind, your own wants and desires for your life. Get rid of the expectations and start living.
Learn to Let-Go! Forgive yourself and believe in the hope of a better tomorrow. Believe in the power of your potential and act on it daily. Accept yourself unconditionally - The past, present and future you. There is no separation, but what you allow to be. Be compassionate with yourself and realize that you are perfect. You shouldn’t feel guilty about who you’ve been, who you are, and what you aspire to be. Get over the guilt and move on.
"There is no perfection but the perfectly imperfect."
- Chris Earl | Fresh Connect
-- Never Shrink in Order to Make Others Comfortable - It's Not Worth It!
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” - Marianne Williamson
Get out of the Sickness of Expectation
Stop Dying Day by Day & Start Living
Rejuvenate your Desire for Greatness
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